In the big world of special education, of services coordinators, special educators, therapists, goals, IEPs, sensory diets, and the like, who Am I but mom? I just got off the phone after an awful conversation with Landon's teacher. His speech has not been progressing, but I have seen progress in other areas, such as kicking, climbing, with his peers, eating lots of new foods, staying with me, following rules, etc. I wanted to check how he was doing. She says he has regressed. Basically she said he will make more progress next year, so what wait?? for 5 more months. She was not friendly or nice about it. "Nice chatting with you" she remarked. I immediately texted back that she could have touched base with me anytime, not wanting for me to contact her, etc. I said I know you are not the mother of a special needs child, but we work hard, we work tirelessly, and we are easily hurt. I kill myself with Landon, it is not his fault at all and I tell him that all the time. How insensitive could someone be.
I am not anybody but mom, but that is the somebody all of us should remember. We can't treat kids like they are a number. That's why I hate labels. Oh, you know Alejandro, the autistic boy, the downs girl, etc. That is what you hear. It is sickening. It happens too. Oh, she is a 70 IQ, you can't expect much. I want them all to know that I do NOT CARE, NOT one bit what Landon's scores say, or what they think they see. What I see is a huge amount of potential, a career, a family, a happy life. I won't rest for a minute till everyone else sees that, not even thinking about it. It is very sad what special education is these days. I hope to one day find a place where kids are seen for their potential, not their progress; their smiles, not their voices; and most importantly, their determination, not some stupid number that means nothing.