Wednesday, July 16, 2014

I can't imagine

These three words, I  hear very often.  I have been hearing them since my mom got sick.  I can't imagine what it's like to see your mom so sick.  I can't imagine my mom losing her hair, or being in the hospital.  I even remember someone saying I could never live without my mom.  I looked at that person and thought, so what would you do then?  I know these things are not said seriously all the time, but i think people ought to try to imagine the other side, and then speak from that angle.  I am sure most people could close their eyes and picture their lives without their mothers in them.  I am sure nobody wants to think that, but you CAN imagine it; you don't have anyone to dress shop for your wedding with, you don't get to see your mom be a grandma, and really, you don't get that support system.  It's possible to imagine this.  Now, with apraxia, I hear it all the time.  I couldn't imagine what you are going through.  I can't imagine scheduling all the therapy.  I can't imagine being on your game to pay attention to your son's cues all the time, etc, etc.  You can imagine it, yes you can, you just don't want to.

1 comment:

  1. I'm guilty of saying this! Sorry if I offended. Of course I can imagine, but I can only sympathize, not empathize, so I end up saying that.